You Must Understand That As A Child Grows And Mature In Life, It May Be Difficult For Them To Remember The First Time They Realized They Couldn’t Hear.


Unless born with the disability at birth, most hearing loss occurs gradually. Your child could possibly hear some people and have difficulties hearing others. They could hear in some situations and have difficulties in others. The same thing occurs in adults.


Usually, a friend or family member is often the first person to notice that someone is losing their hearing. You would also be surprised to know that their are helpful tool that can accommodate the hearing impaired. In adults, these are the warning signs of early hearing loss…

Hearing impaired grandfather with grandson


1) You hear but cannot understand


2)  You ask people to repeat what they said or respond inappropriately to questions


3)  You have difficulty understanding in restaurants, the car, and other noisy environments where several people are talking at the same time


4) You have difficulty hearing at the movies or in the theater


5) You have difficulty understanding in group or social situations


6)  You can’t understand your grandchildren or other young children


7)  You hear better in one ear than in the other when you are on your cell 


8)  You have dizziness pain or ringing in your ears


9)  You turn up the television and radio volume louder than other people like


10)  You have difficulty understanding speech if you can’t see the speakers face


11)  You turn your head to one side to hear what is said


In addition to observing the above signs, your family may notice the following:


Old woman with dementia and hearing loss

* You Have A Blank Expression on Your Face


* You Speak To Loudly Or Too Softly


* You Can’t Understand What Is Being Said When Someone Speaks To You From Another    Room


* You Avoid Social Situations


* You Tune Out Or Fall Asleep At Group Gatherings



The average delay between the onset of hearing loss and seeking a professional diagnosis is five to seven years. One reason for this delay is not noticing  the change in hearing in the early stages of acquired hearing loss.


A More Prevalent Reason Is Failing To Admit There Is A Problem Or Avoiding The Problem.


If you are in the denial stage, you may try to hide the loss because you perceive it as a sign of carrying the stigma of a disability. You also may try and hide your hearing loss when in denial. You do this because you perceive this as a sign of aging or carry the stigma of a disability.


You also may hide your hearing loss by not participating in conversations, by smiling when everyone else is doing so, and by bluffing in other ways.


Denial is exacerbated by the fact that in some situations you can hear and in others you cannot, so you waver between acceptance and denial of the need for a hearing test.


The hearing loss is often obvious to your family members and friends; however, if you are like most hard of hearing people, at first you may blame your problem on others.

Mother with daughter suffering from a hearing disability


Since hearing loss is usually free of physical pain, people who are hard of hearing tend to put off dealing with it, especially if they are also experiencing other physical problems such as arthritis and heart disease.


Although, physically painless, hearing loss can cause you emotional pain since it can make you feel socially inept, isolated, embarrassed, even depressed.


Poor hearing disrupts  communication and can lead to unhappiness.


Family and friends, who try to communicate with you, will find themselves getting frustrated. It also can cause pain for family members who get angry when they cannot communicate, wondering if you understood them.



If listening situations are causing you to strain, tune out, or feel fatigued and irritable, it may be time to admit you have a hearing loss. Seeing a hearing healthcare specialist to determine what the problem is should be the next step.


Some hearing losses may be medically or surgically correctable; most can be helped by wearing a hearing aid.


Much Information Is Available When You Decide That Doing Something About Your Hearing Loss Is Your TOP PRIORITY!!


Maintaining good communication with your family and friends is vital to remaining happy, healthy, and in control of your life. It is especially important for older people. You owe it to yourself to have the best quality of life possible.

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Woman with hearing loss at pet shop


Individuals suffering from a serious hearing loss always struggle with volume and distortion. In other words you can hear, but you can not understand. Hearing loss has to overcome two parts; loudness and clarity…



A person with a loudness problem usually will find it much easier to understand speech if sounds are made loud enough; some sounds, however, may never be loud enough to be heard.



The person with a clarity problem finds sounds are unclear or cannot be understood at all even when amplified. Most hard of hearing people experience problems with both loudness and clarity.



Frequency (pitch), which is important for understanding speech, is measured in hertz (Hz). You may have trouble hearing consonants like s, f, and th,  but still be able to hear low-frequency sounds such as ah, oo and m.


This is because hearing loss for older people is usually greater in the higher frequencies.


How Your Hearing Loss Affects Your Family And Friends.


Think about the many activities you enjoy with your family and friends  and what it would be like to feel left out. Holiday gatherings, where everyone is talking  at the same time, can become a frustrating  and sad experience for you.


Aunt with partial hearing loss and her niece

While others are enjoying conversing with one another, you are missing out. You want to hear what your family members and others are talking about but cannot understand them and may have even more difficulty understanding what your grandchildren are saying.

You also may have curtailed other family activities, including movies, watching television, playing cards, and eating out, which once were enjoyable family times, because you don’t hear as well as you once did.

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25 Replies to “Signs Of Going Deaf | Those Struggling Years”

  1. Hello!
    My father suffers from hearing loss, and it has been difficult at times because he won’t wear his hearing aides. I’m not exactly sure why, but i think sometimes it’s because he wants to tune my mother out 🙂 LOL!

    He has accepted the fact that he has lost hearing in one hear; however, I think there is still somewhat of a denial going on.

    You offer a lot of great information; I am going to forward this article to my mom. Hopefully it will give her a better understanding,


    1. Hello again Kathy. I got a chuckle out of what you said because that’s the same thing my step-dad use to do with my mom. (Just tuned out all the loud screaming and fussing my mom use to do). They’re both deceased now, but that bought back some funny memories. Thanks. In regards to your dad, he may not wear his aid because it may be uncomfortable to his ear. Many times an ill-fitting hearing aid will cause a user discomfort and a refusal to wear it.

      Although he’s in denial, try getting him in (through bribing or whatever), to an ear specialist to measure the proper fit. Companies also offer many different styles to choose from. Let him select a style he’s happy with. He’ll most likely wear it with a more happy attitude. Try it and watch an instant attitude adjustment. Thanks for commenting Kathy. Let me know if I could help you with anything else.

  2. This was a really informative post. I always had this question about hearing, can you possibly go deaf because of listening to loud music on your headphones?
    This question has haunted me for a while now and although, I love my headphones but I’m always concerned about this. Please share your thoughts on this, is it really a problem in the long run?

    1. Hi Shrey and thank you for checking in. To answer your question, it all depends on two factors: how loud do you blast the sound through your headphones and how long you’ve been doing it. You stated you love your headphones or earbuds(I imagine you’re listening to your favorite music), that means you’re probably playing your music too loud which can damage your eardrums and create severe hearing loss. How long have you been listening to loud music? How many hours a day are you using them? I’m curious to know.

  3. Wow, being able to hear is something that we definetely tend to take for granted, until it is not there anymore.

    Your article has prompted me and the family to make sure we go and check our ears as you just never know. I also from time to time battle to hear certain types of voices.

    My child I know can hear but it is called selective hearing, as she doesn’t hear me when I ask her to do something she doesn’t want to.

    1. Michel, thanks for dropping in. Your right, Michel! Many folks do take their hearing for granted, until one day they wake up wondering why they can’t hear out of their left ear. Ignoring this would be tragic! You and your family are making the correct move by getting your ears checked.

      The voices you struggle to hear from time to time, may just come from folks around speaking low. Maybe certain people talking around you aren’t speaking loud enough. But just in case, get your ears checked by a ear specialist. As far as your daughter is concerned, your child is just being a child. This is a behavioral issue, If she acts this way only when you call upon her. So at this stage I wouldn’t worry about her ears.

      Thank you Michel, for commenting and please share my site with others. Also, let me know if you have any other questions or concerns.

  4. very interesting article . This few signs can help us to understand before others if we have hearing problems.

    Is sad and difficult to find out that you have this problem but better to know, to find some help.

    Thanks for sharing was very helpful and i really learned some things:)

    What do you suggest is the first thing that somebody should do if they see these signs? What is the first step?

    You are right that hearing problems can make us unhappy and to prefer loneliness because we can communicate easy

    1. Hi Christina, thanks for checking in. It’s so important that we should take care of our hearing health. if you or some family members notice another family member’s lack of communication by not keeping up with conversation or just being silent, Or you have to poke he or she to get their attention, then that person should be taken to an ear specialist for further evaluation of their hearing. You don’t want the problem to get worse! Then constant treatment and monitoring would follow up. I hope this helped. Christina, please share my site with others and let me know if i could assist you further.

  5. Hello Ronald,

    I have a friend who’s kid is about 7 years old. Everytime they called him, he seems to be not responding to them. They have to go near and tap him on tne shoulder. Is it because of his hearing or might be other thing else ?
    Thank you for your well written article that highlighted all the signs of loosing a person’s hearing.

    After reading them, I’m definitely thankful for my hearing ability and grateful for it too.


    1. Thank you for commenting, Rehmiee. Based on what you described about your friend’s kid, I think his parents should find good audiologist to determine the degree of hearing loss. They’ll do extensive testing. It could also be a behavioral issue. How long has he been this way? Are other family members dealing with hearing loss? More info provided to me will help give a more ‘pin-pointed’ answer. Keep in touch.

  6. Mom is in her 60s and she’s already loosing her hearing ability. She can’t hear her cell phone ringing at times so it’s very difficult to contact her when there is an emergency.

    I had to change the house phone to a model that rings very (irritatingly) loud. Finally, she’s picking up the phone. Sometimes, it makes me wonder if I should leave her alone at home because it might be dangerous if she can’t ‘hear’ trouble coming.

    1. Hi Cathy

      First, have you ever thought about taking your mom to an ear specialist in your city to determine the extent of damage to the sensitive inner hair cells lining the cochlea? Second, depending on the specialist finding, ask your doctor about medications he can prescribe for your mom to prevent any prolonged aggravation of her hearing problem.

      The phone ringer volume change is a temporary fix, which is fine for now. Also, it wouldn’t hurt to keep a family member or close neighbor nearby in case of emergency. But it would give you more peace of mind to take her in to find the root of the problem which could be corrected with the use of an hearing aid.

      I hope this help. Please don’t hesitate to contact me if you have any more questions or concerns. Also share this site with anyone else you feel it might help.

  7. Hi Ronald.
    Thank you for a great site. It is very informative and well written. You break up the text in sections, which is great and makes it a lot easier to read.

    I can recognize some of the symptoms you mention, from when we started wondering what was going on with my grandmother. She would come with some strange answers, spoke loudly and, when she was in a company where several people were talking, she struggled with understanding, and eventually she would withdraw herself from the conversation. When she got a hearing aid everything changed.

    Maybe, if I had read this post back then, we could have understood and dealt with the problem sooner.

    Keep up the good work.

    1. Thanks for commenting. I also went through the same thing you mentioned with my step father. His hearing was really bad and he spoke REALLY LOUD! When you asked him a question, he appeared quite puzzled. We got him a hearing aid and he Still couldn’t hear. (I think my mom waited too late to help him.) I was much younger back then and wish I had the knowledge at that time to help.

  8. This was a very interesting subject. I read the page on adults with hearing problems, and also the page on children. There was a lot of good information included. I think it would be good to add info on what kind of doctor tests a child’s hearing to determine their level of available hearing. How does a parent learn sign language and use it to teach their child to communicate with sign language? What other issues are unique to hearing loss in children that can help parents… Can they go to regular classes at school? Are disciplinary issues or techniques different? What kinds of programs exist for parents to adjust to dealing with a child with special needs of hearing loss? Both articles were very good. I’m sure they can help many families 🙂

    Thanks, Shannon

    1. Hi Shannon,

      Thank you for commenting with some great questions. With a subject as sensitive as hearing loss in children, I want to be as thorough as I can. There will be additional info added to the pages of my site. Getting good feedback is what’s helpful to the author. Thank you for reading and commenting on the articles. I try to be as helpful as I could.

  9. Hi Dejan
    Someone else had that similar concern too. Yes, serious hearing loss can develop from ongoing loud noises over an extended period of time. That’s why some long-time rock band musicians experience a ringing in their ears due to this type of behavior.

    It’s best just to cut down or just eliminate being in those type of places. Anything else i can help you with?

  10. Hello Ronald,
    Something to learn about the importance of hearing which most people take for granted until they started to loose it. How can one prevent this from happening ? Is there anything that we can take or do to keep our hearing state healthy ? What if we discovered about hearing loss at an age where its too late to pick up sign language ? Can we still live a normal life ?
    Thank you for your well written article.

    1. Hi my friend,

      Hearing loss prevention require serious diligence where hearing can be put at risk. You can prevent hearing loss just by removing yourself from these types of situations. Loud noise over time can damage hair cells in your ears. This will affect older people especially over time. Wearing ear protection like earplugs or earmuffs can reduce the sound decibels by 15 to 30%.

      In regards to sign language, there’s no ‘magic age’ to learning this skill. it’s never too late for a person to learn sign language. The question remains are you too old to pick up its fundamentals and teach it properly. Your hearing ability may contribute to how well you function in your daily life around relatives, friends and colleagues.

      It’s important to be aware of your hearing limitations and seek treatment early to deal effectively with any hearing loss.

      I hope I answered all your questions. Is there anything else I can help you with?

  11. Your fact and fiction section was great! It was very informative as was your whole website. Great job and keep up the good work.

  12. Hey Ronald, I’ve been thinking about learning sign language to help with this sort of thing to offset my own personal aging process. What would you recommend to learn this adequately?

    1. Hearing loss in babies and toddlers is a serious problem. I don’t know if you already have children or plan to have any, but to stay ahead in your knowledge regarding this issue, here’s what I recommend: “Helping Deaf and Hard of Hearing to use Spoken Language”
      I offer this through my website and is very educational in regards to learning and understanding sign language which, in turn, will help the young, the old and yourself.

  13. Very informational site you have here. I find this very useful being that I have a friend who is deaf. They have recently had a child and they will need to teach it sign language real soon. I will send them the link to your website. I know that they will benefit from it a lot.


    1. Thank you very much for visiting and commenting. Yes, hearing loss is a serious situation among children and adults. Parents learning to sign is something that would be very beneficial in communicating with children suffering from hearing loss and also in adults as well. I really appreciate you sharing this valuable and important information.

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